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Tony Bozanich's avatar

I do both jiujitsu and comedy and the problem with the “jokes” in this article is not that they are sexual but rather they are hack … poorly written, predictable, and little more than a premise with no skillful execution. Someone like Craig Jones, who has been pretty clearly good for the sport, makes jokes that people like because they are good jokes. Humor and joke writing is a skill, just like BJJ, and the examples cited are white belt level attempts … critiquing them is like saying some bjj move doesn’t work because a white belt did the move wrong.

Quinn Que ❁'s avatar

My mind immediately went to Craig Jones. Just seems transparently obvious that a blanket veto on the kind of content he does, just because other people might do it poorly, is not a good solution. And frankly, the thesis of the article feels like it's coming from a place of insecurity.

Tony Bozanich's avatar

I can sort of see the point he's trying to make ... you clearly don't want a gym environment where women (or anyone really) feels creeped out and ends up quitting. But good jokes don't do that, they do the opposite by pointing out certain absurdities and actually build camaraderie. The solution to bad jokes about BJJ is good jokes about BJJ.

Austin's avatar

Are you aware of any data comparing (NCAA) team sports to various martial arts in terms of sexual misconduct? I'd suspect that the latter has a higher occurrence, particularly when there's greater inherent physical contact (e.g. grappling) and there are unchecked power dynamics ("martial arts" are notorious cesspools for "cult" behavior).

Jesse Walker's avatar

I have not seen data, but I have the same suspicion. Between the weird, culty power dymamics, the physical intimacy, and the ease of being secretive I bet the rate of occurance is much higher in MA

Lucky Chode's avatar

Remember who got shot from a phone booth in the courthouse? A martial arts pervert.

palooka's avatar

id like to go further and also say stop sexualizing bjj using rape jokes

like when someone has you pinned and they pretend to jump you while ensuring you can’t move isnt just a sexual reference - it references rape

Age of Infovores's avatar

BJJ is still pretty young. We try not to sexualize her

Yashuo's avatar

Maybe I’ve been under a rock for the past 5 (10?) years, but this is something that is actually happening? Is it happening in judo too? (I mostly only watch Olympic level judo these days. I studied martial arts as a kid, then got into the whole UFC thing. Now find it distasteful. As a former high school boxer, I will watch some boxing now and then, but the lighter weights for the most part).

The Lady Layman's avatar

You titled this article like it was a full troll…

Diogenes's avatar

Interesting article. Have you had any contact with the ecstatic dance movement/space? Or something they call contact improv?

Quinn Que ❁'s avatar

We regret to inform you he's deadly serious.

Quinn Que ❁'s avatar

I could be wrong, but his replies in the comments seem pretty serious.

Ahmed’s Stack of Subs's avatar

everybody should stop touching everybody else

Happy Enchilada's avatar

Lame. Grappling is and has been homoerotic since forever. Greeks did it naked. Turks do it covered in olive oil and tight pants. Nothing special about BJJ. Just another way to divide people with a non problem. Focus your energy on your guard

ralph's avatar

Absolutely nothing sexual about wrestling someone into submission

adrian dyer's avatar

There is nothing rare or valuable about BJJ. It is as common as dirt. Worse, it will get you seriously injured (or worse) in a real fight.

Combat sports may (or may not) be fun, but they are not above humor.

Quinn Que ❁'s avatar

Why you gotta do my boi Craig Jones like this? 🤣

Michael Woudenberg's avatar

I just wrote about non-sexual physical touch and I think it's a little different. The whole 'gay' is actually a deflection that it isn't gay. It's almost like throwing the insult at yourself so others can't because part of that awkwardness you describe is that it's perceived that all male touch IS sexual. I agree with your premise that we need the physical touch but what you see isn't the cause, it's the symptom of other issues.

Here's my article that compliments this well: https://www.polymathicbeing.com/p/embracing-bromance

Jesse Walker's avatar

It wasn’t my intention to infer causality. You’re right, it’s a symptom. But even people joking about it can “cause” others to see it as having a sexual component when none exists